I am being abused
You are not alone, and this is not your fault. You might feel confused or unsure, but what’s happening to you is real, and you deserve support. We are here to help you understand your options, stay safe, and know that there are people who care and want to help.
What abuse looks like
Abuse isn’t always physical.
It can show up as someone constantly putting you down, controlling your money, checking your messages, or making you feel afraid in your own home. Sometimes it starts small or is disguised as love or protection—and that can make it hard to spot. If you’ve ever felt confused, blamed, scared, or silenced, please know: what you’re feeling matters. Abuse is never your fault, and you don’t need bruises for it to be real. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and free to live life on your terms.
Does your partner: |
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Tells you no one else will believe or help you |
Makes you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” |
Hurts you, threatens you, or destroys your belongings |
Forces or pressures you into sexual activity
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Stops you from working, or takes your money |
Checks your phone, messages, or social media without permission |
Constantly criticises, blames, or belittles you |
Controls where you go, who you see, or what you wear |
If any of this feels familiar, you’re not alone, and it is not your fault. You deserve care, support, and safety. We're here to walk alongside you, whatever step you're ready for.
How we can help
We offer a calm and confidential space where you can feel listened to, supported, and understood. You don’t have to be in crisis to reach out—if you’re unsure about what’s happening in your relationship or just want someone to talk to, we’re here.
At Nguvu, we can:
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Listen without judgement and offer emotional support
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Help you explore whether what you’re experiencing is abuse
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Provide clear, practical information on domestic abuse, safety planning, and next steps
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Signpost you to trusted services that offer emergency accommodation, legal advice, or specialist counselling
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Support you as you build confidence and take the steps that feel right for you
Our support is shaped around your pace and your choices—there’s no pressure, and no right or wrong time to talk.
Please note: while we are not a crisis service, we will always do our best to connect you with the right help. If you're in immediate danger or need urgent support, we’ll guide you to organisations that can help straight away.